Showing posts with label Success. Show all posts
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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Success After Failure - Even Genghis Khan Lost Some Early Battles

Both the worst and the best of the great achievers had the belief in themselves and the resilience to overcome early failures. One of these was none other than Genghis Khan. There are powerful lessons we can learn from him.

In 1162 a child, called Temujin, was born in Mongolia clutching a blood clot - a sign that he was destined to be a great warrior. Signs like these encouraged Temujin to believe in his own ability despite early defeats. We, too, need to believe in our own ability, power and destiny.

Temujin came to rule the largest land empire ever known. It was four times the size of the empire of Alexander the Great and twice the size of the Roman Empire. But success only came after failure.

Temujin, who later became known as Genghis Khan, was the son of a tribal warrior chief in Mongolia. When he was nine his father was poisoned by a rival tribe. Temujin commented: "From that day I would never be a child again."

His tribe was little more than an extended family They were at risk unless they forged links with other tribes. Temujin wisely enlarged his tribe through marriage with Borte.

However, even an alliance with Borte's clan did not make him safe. The tribes of Mongolia were locked in a spiral of vendettas. There was only one law on the steppes: "Take what you want."

The Merkit tribe had once feuded with Temujin's father. Now Temujin was in danger and his new wife was especially vulnerable. The scene was set for his first failure.

The Merkit's stole Temujin's wife on a raid. Temujin failed to defend his wife and prevent her capture. He was faced with accepting defeat and escaping or staying and dying. Temujin escaped:

"They had taken my wife. I knew what I had to do. Only a fool fights a battle he knows he cannot win."

His wife too had to submit to her captor or die. She submitted. Temujin may have been beaten in a skirmish by the Merkit but he was not defeated. He made plans to get his wife back and take his revenge.

He could rely on his blood brother, Jamuka: "I had just one friend I could trust." But he needed even more support. He and Jamuka sought the help of a khan who was once the blood brother of Temujin's father: "I told him he was as a father to me. A man who seeks power needs friends who have power."

He was accepted by the khan. Temujin was delighted: "My power had been increased by heaven and earth." The man who later conquered the world knew the importance of support from the powerful.

He now went looking for his wife at the Merkit camp, rescued her and took his revenge: "We made the Merkits pay for their deed. We destroyed their families and emptied their breasts."

Temujin was barely 20 and he had already eliminated one of Mongolia's great tribes, rescued his wife and had turned his first failure into victory. He had also begun to build his power base.

Nine months later Borta gave birth to his son. There was some doubt as to who was the father but Temujin again turned defeat into victory by treating him as his own son. His pragmatic, practical approach helped him throughout his life.

However, there was tension between Temujin and Jamuka who in the early days shared the leadership of the tribe. They disagreed over how you value a man's worth. Both were sons of aristocrats. But only only Temujin had really suffered adversity.

After his father was murdered Temujin experienced betrayal by his own people: "Our tribe deserted us. Men are loyal only to a strong leader. They left us with nothing. We had no friends but our own shadows. Like the wolf, we endured and from hardship I grew strong. Now I cared only for the strength in a man's heart. A warrior does not win a battle by virtue of his birth."

Temujin rewarded ability and loyalty alone. One of his most promising warriors, Subuday, was the son of humble herdsman. Jamuka, however, believed high rank should only be reserved for aristocrats His blood brother was throwing out the old ways. The gulf widened between them.

A shaman said that Temujin and his sons would rule the whole surface of the world This was a decisive moment for Jamuka who now wished to move away from their homeland. Temujin realised that disunity would follow.It did.

Two years later Jamuka's men ambushed Temujin's tribe. It was a huge defeat. Again the future world conqueror had failed.

"My army was unprepared, outnumbered and outwitted; the earth was soaked with the blood of my warriors." Temujin knew how to face reality and admit his own responsibility but the worst was to come.

Jamuka lined up the generals of his blood brother and had them thrown alive into a cauldron of boiling water.

When Temujin heard of the atrocity he swore a vow: "By the power of heaven, I swore to gain my vengeance. Never again would I be defeated nor my loyal warriors so dishonoured."

He told his warriors: "They say the Mongols are descended from the wolf. Like the wolf we are famous for our ferocity and courage but to win a battle we have to fight fiercely not as individual warriors but as parts of a whole."

Temujin trained his warriors to a high standard and in 1204 rode west in search of his blood brother and his army.

Jamuka was the first to face an army that eventually conquered much of the surface of the earth. Temujin's men advanced in silence saving their battle cries till the last. He used discipline, teamwork and controlled tactics to defeat Jamuka.

Arrows were released and then "my cavalry attacked without mercy." Each tactic was meticulously planned. One squadron fled luring Jamuka's men into a trap.

Jamuka saw his army destroyed and ran. His men lay like "felled logs in the forest." He hid through winter of 1204. In spring, he reappeared escorted by two of his generals who expected a reward.

Temujin rewarded the two generals with death for their disloyalty to their khan and gave Jamuka the chance to rejoin him. But Jamuka knew there could only be one ruler so he simply asked for a noble death in which none of his blood would be shed. Temujin granted his blood brother's final wish. Two warriors bent him backwards over some logs breaking his back. Both early failures had been revenged. Defeat had been turned into victory.

Temujin was declared universal ruler In 1206 at the age of 44. A new title was created to honour him which meant "Ruler of all men" i.e. Genghis Khan. It was declared that: "All who hear him shall obey him."

Character is Higher Than Intellect - Empower Yourself With This Realization

We all know how easy it is to follow the majority, to do as everyone else seems to be doing, to do only that which is considered average.  It takes a strong individual to live a life based on his or her own ideals.  Such a person shows strength simply in ability to remain on a chosen path regardless of the inevitable counter forces.

It is the fear of these counter forces that keeps most of us away from our natural desire to learn in order to fulfill our desire for acceptance. It is the fear of these counter forces that threatens us to inaction rather than face failure.

Although we tend to restrict ourselves, we admire those who have the tenacity to face up to these forces in order to live the way they choose.  To those who have used their mind to perceive and understand the unknown we recognize their intellect. To those who go the extra step of being a living example of their beliefs we recognize their character. 

We offer our highest admiration to those who act, those who demonstrate character.  We recognize that it is not only amazing to have reasoning power and knowledge, it is incredible to veer from the norm and act in a way as to be a living example of one’s beliefs.  Through our admiration we realize that character is higher than intellect.

Now, it would seem that rather than placing these people on a pedestal , it would be better to let them serve as models for us.  Rather than merely admiring their daring we could stand to benefit from their example, the example of action. 

Such an example was given to us by Thomas Edison and his Insomnia Team who were named as such because of their long hours.  He chose to spend most of his waking hours with these men, who were just as dedicated as he, working endlessly on a given belief. 

Edison also made a point to clearly demonstrate his determination through an open door policy with the media.  Though he was mainly doing this in an attempt to secure financial backing it gave the rest of the world a clear picture of this man’s character. 

Edison and the Insomnia Team showed their persistence and determination often throughout the years. One of the inventions that called heavily on these qualities was the light bulb.  Edison and his Insomnia Team could have given up after a couple attempts, yet even after a couple hundred attempts; however, they continued on even into thousands of attempts. 

Edison could not be discouraged; rationalizing that since they had only found thousands of ways it could not be done, he could only be closer to the right answer.  Edison and the Insomnia Team above intelligence showed character.  Their determination pushed aside the counter forces and their diligence was rewarded after over three thousand attempts.

Determination such as this should be ours since it is the very substance that promotes action.  This, of course, is easier said than done.  Recognizing that action is spurred by determination may be a key to a new way of living. 

If we believe in something, the beliefs of others, particularly those who speak of impossibilities should be ignored.  Since we all are able to rationalize that error is part of human nature we should not be afraid of it, rather we should look at it more like Edison who saw it as a stepping stone bringing him closer to his goal. 

In realizing that character is higher that intellect we should not only admire it in others we should strive to make it our own. 

This empowering thought is fuel to drive us to success. We have the power to be the best we can be by acting on our dreams.  We can learn what we need along the way.

Succeed By Counting Your Chickens - Three Success Lessons From The UK Apprentice

Three key success lessons emerged from 'The Apprentice'. 'The Apprentice' is a very popular reality TV show in both the UK and the USA. This article is based on the UK version of the show which features Sir Alan Sugar who, like Donald Trump, is a highly  successful businessman.

Sir Alan Sugar, the East End boy who became a multimillionaire businessman with a reputation for blunt speaking and toughness, spent about twelve weeks this year selecting an apprentice to run one of his business projects.

More than 10,000 people applied for "The Apprentice" and a chance to get a six-figure salaried job with Sir Alan Sugar. The 14 finalists had done well to get into the last stages of the process but only one would win the prize.

I did not learn as many lessons about success in business or in life from the program as I had hoped but there were three important success lessons which are worth remembering.

Sir Alan, himself, was asked at the end of the program what lessons he had learned. His  answer  was a surprising one: "You don't buy a hundred chickens for a hundred pizzas!"

He was referring to a task set early in the process of evaluating the candidates to be his apprentice.

One bright spark called Syed Ahmed had been given the job of ordering the food ingredients necessary for an event in central London. His team would use the ingredients to make food that people would buy from their food stall. The aim was to make a profit which was greater than that of their rival team.

Syed's team decided to offer Italian food including pizzas. Syed acted with careless abandon and total disregard for detail. He ordered a hundred chickens without figuring out how many chickens would be needed to make one pizza. He also did not bother to enquire what size the chickens were. They turned out to be huge!

His team, as you can imagine, ended up by wasting a large amount of money  before they started selling and in the end the pizzas did not sell that well. Large numbers of very large chickens were eventually thrown away and Sir Alan like any good businessman does not like to have his money wasted. 

Many businesses and other enterprises fail because people do not keep a close check on the money they are spending. Sir Alan explained forcefully that he did not like to see people p*** his money up against the wall.

All of us need to learn the importance of counting the numbers involved in any enterprise whether they are about chickens or anything else. Success is often a numbers game whether you are counting calories or the number of press ups you perform daily or the money you save every month.

Many candidates did well in the tasks they were set but then blew their chances in the interviews near the end of the elimination process. They had no idea what kind of businesses Sir Alan was running even though they claimed to be keen to have a job in his organisation.

They had failed to do their homework and came into the interviews totally unprepared. Success usually involves doing one's homework. "Preparation Prevents P*** Pot Poor Performance" to use words that Sir Alan did not but might have used!

Paul Tulip, a head hunter, was one of the most successful candidates but he had failed to prepare for the interviews. He had also failed to hand in a decent CV.

His other mistake was to appear arrogant rather than confident. One interviewer took an instant dislike to him. Part of the interview went as follows:

Paul: "I think I am brilliant!"

Interviewer: "Don't keep saying that!"

Paul: "I can get on with anyone!"

Interviewer: "You don't get on with me!"

Paul never recovered his status with Sir Alan after the interviews. Later he explained his arrogant attitude.

"I thought I'd better say that I am the best and then I have something to live up to."

His girlfriend commented: "He says he's the best every day. I just say: 'Of course you are darling.'"

The interviewer was less tolerant: "I didn't like him. At 25 you can't be the best. He's just a chancer."

Sir Alan also commented that Paul was too cocksure.

Paul's strategy might have worked if he had been a great boxer like Muhammad Ali. Muhammad also claimed to be the best but he was not applying for a job as an apprentice i.e. some one who is ready to learn.

Another favourite to win probably blew her chances at the interviews as well. Ruth is a very successful manager and sales woman but she, at times, appeared arrogant and even aggressive.

She shocked one interviewer by failing to knock on the door when she barged in for her interview. She was fond of describing herself as the badger. Her real name was Ruth Badger and she lived up to it.

She made large claims for what she had achieved in previous jobs. Her interviewer found these difficult to believe: "She sounds like wonder woman!"

In her final interview with Sir Alan she did not sound like a future apprentice should:

"I am the all rounder. I will increase your revenue; I've already got the skills"

If she already had the skills, why bother to be an apprentice? Even a tough character like Sir Alan does not want to have to deal with an over confident 'badger'.

In the end the job of apprentice went to the quietly confident but determined and ambitious Michelle Dewberry who started her business life as a check out girl with very few exam passes to her name.

Michelle had probably not been as successful as Paul and Ruth in the tasks they were set but she managed to remain in control of herself even when fiercely questioned.

Nor did she lose her control in the final event when she found her team were letting her down. Instead she gave her opinion of their behaviour forcefully and then took effective steps to put things right.

Michelle, like Sir Alan, came from a tough background and like him could swear like a trooper. Plenty of people had told her she would fail but this added to the flames of her desire to make more of life:

"I have many people saying to me you are going to be on the dole. That's what drives me."

When Michelle started the assessment process she heard the other candidates talking about how great they were and how much better they were than the others. She wisely kept her self-confidence to herself:

"People underestimate me because I'm not loud or cocky; they meet me and think I'm a bit quiet, or I'm a bit blonde, whatever, and they are sadly mistaken."

Michelle is, in fact, a very attractive blonde and always takes care to present herself well. Sir Alan could hardly have failed to notice this and the way she could persuade people with her feminine charm.

This is not a politically correct asset but, given Michelle's other qualities, might well have given her the edge.

Three main success lessons emerge from this year's apprentice. They apply to anyone who wants to succeed whether as an apprentice or working on their own.

Don't waste money especially if it belongs to your employer!

Do your home work. One ancient writing says: "If ye are prepared, ye shall not fear."

Do not come across as big headed unless you plan on working on your own! Simply appear quietly confident and give every task, as Michelle did in her own words: "110 per cent!"

Eventually people will judge you by your actions and results rather than by your over confident words. Read the story of  David and Goliath again!

If you find acronyms helpful, remember the word CAN.

You can achieve almost anything you desire if you remember the importance of the following three key success traits and techniques which make up the acronym CAN:

Confidence i.e. have confidence in your ability to learn new skills and to persevere until you achieve those goals which you desire most.

Advance Preparation i.e. prepare as thoroughly as possible for whatever you are trying to achieve. Make lists of what you need to do or learn. Work on these key tasks every day.

Numbers i.e. keep a close check on the actual numbers or details of what you are doing or pay some one else to do this for you. Checking numbers will keep you in touch with reality. Start counting your chickens!

Steps to take to Stay on Your Mission

You believe you’re on the right track.  You have defined a career mission, set up goals in line with your mission, and you’ve even set up a daily priority plan. Now effective time management should kick in and simply take care of itself, right?

Not so fast! As you become more productive, you may find that you’ll be forced to make choices. Some of these choices, if made properly, will lead you to even greater heights, or if made poorly will lead you to a career disappointment.

Let’s use Ted as an example. Ted is a composite character made up of thousands of salespeople from around the country. Let's look at Ted's career:
Ted has recently made some big changes in his career.  These changes have expanded his prospecting skills and his presentation skills - so now several things are happening to him that have never happened before. First he’s got too many customers, so he feels pulled into many directions at once. Second, he can feel himself slipping on service with his customers. He’s not returning phone calls promptly, not following up, and basically dropping the ball. Third, he’s beginning to spend more time away from home, his children are beginning to become distant, and his spouse is becoming resentful of the business!

Sound familiar? Are these challenges you’ve faced? Unfortunately, when faced with these dilemmas, many salespeople resort to something we have all done at some point in our careers. They take steps to sabotage their own success.

Consider this quote from Dr. Joyce Brothers - "We cannot consistently perform at a level inconsistent with our own self image." Is this true of you? Many salespeople view their new found success with suspicion. Why? Because they have rarely experienced it and may have a difficult time adjusting to a new self image. So instead of embracing success many salespeople will reverse course and begin to swim back to their old lives. How do they do this?
Most salespeople don't wake up one morning and say "Well, today I'm going to start failing!" Instead most salespeople just begin making bad decisions. These poor decisions can lead to a bad case of self sabotage and a career crash.

So you may ask yourself how can I succeed in my business but also not feel overwhelmed? How can I continue giving great service to my customers? And most important how can I stop working 80 hour weeks and still be productive?

Let's look at these ways to Stay on your Mission:

1. Relegate/Delegate/Terminate -
When studying your daily to do list (you have one right) you may find that you just have way too many items on the list to possibly accomplish. So what can you do? Apply the simple but effective RDT method.

Relegate - First decide which of the items on the list must be done to accomplish your long term goals. These of course, are your priorities. You must relegate yourself to the fact that these items must be done and most importantly done first.

Delegate - Next when reviewing your to do list ask yourself is there anyone that could be doing these items instead of me? Can you out source it, hire it done, or could some else be doing this work? Wise salespeople attempt to delegate as much as possible.

Terminate - What is on your to do list that does not have to be done? Are there items that are nothing more than busy work? If you can't terminate them, at least, put them on the very bottom of the list.

2. Cut the Dead Wood
As your career begins to pick up steam you may find that you cannot simply work with every customer. You may need to begin choosing your customers. How? Qualify them harder. This may seem harsh at first, after all you want to work with everyone, but in the end you will unable to work with everyone. This is one of the toughest aspects of time management: Knowing which priority takes priority. All customers are good, but the fact is some are better than others. Here is a quick way to qualify your customers:

Motivation Level - Do they really want to buy?

Timing - Are they ready to act now! Or are they stalling?

Ability - Can they close the deal?

3. Deal with Paper Once
How many times do you move one piece of paper around on your desk? Come on, it's more than just once! We all know we should do something about the piece of paper, but we decide that for now, it will look good in a new corner until next week (or the week after). So we keep shuffling, and shuffling, and shuffling. Sometimes one piece of paper becomes two pieces of paper or more.

So what can we do about it? Use the one touch rule. Only touch paper once before you do something with it. There are three uses for every piece of paper you have on your desk - Here they are:

File It - Put it where it needs to go - Which is off your desk!

Toss it - 90% of what comes across your desk is garbage!

Deal With it - If it requires your attention do something with it!

Now when it comes to item number three let me give you a tip: Deal with paper once a day! Set aside just one time during the day to deal with paper, deal with it and move on!

4. Automate Yourself
How long does it take to make ten phone calls? Believe me it takes some time. You have to look up the phone number, dial it, wait for it to ring, and then you have to talk to someone on the other end. What’s makes it time consuming is that you if you beat around the bush awhile until you get to the topic you really called about.

So what is the solution? Force yourself to focus on the reason for your call, and in a polite, tactful way, cut to the chase.  Your contact at the other end will appreciate you not wasting their time as well.

Email is another simple solution. How long does it take to email those same ten people? Not long, especially if your message is the same to each one.
Superstars learn to condition their customers to the fact that they will be communicating with them primarily by email, with a few sporadic calls mixed in. The truth is most of them will be relieved. Why? Because they don't have the time to talk to you either!

5. Time Log
Can you remember what you did five days ago? Hey, I can't remember what I did five hours ago! But when you are trying to improve your time management skills you must have the ability to measure your actions against your results. Within the investment world we call this the ROI or return on investment.

What is your return on investment for your time? The only way to measure this key aspect of your business, is to take periodic stock of your business. Do this with a time log. A time log is a simple notebook, in which you record all of your business activities for a week and then compare your success with your actions. If you find that your actions did not equal success then it may be time to reevaluate your time investments.

Steps to Building Your Self-Confidence

Accept yourself

The very first step in building self-confidence is to accept yourself in an unconditional way. You are human, therefore you are not perfect, so don’t dwell on what you see as flaws.  Everyone has qualities that someone else does not.  This is what makes us want to go out and find partners who give us love, and make us feel wanted and complete.  Those great feelings would not be possible if you were perfect.  Accept yourself how you are. It will help to rid you of constant stress and worry over things that you cannot control.

Do what you want!

How long it has been since you last did something that you really liked, something that you enjoyed doing as a child? How long has it been since you went out for ice cream with a friend? These simple things have the power to build your self-confidence and add fulfillment to your life. Life can be very quite simple.  It is easy to get caught u in the rat race of today’s world, and lose yourself in the process.  It is easy to forget your purpose, what you like and what you enjoy doing. It happens to people all of the time.  It is your responsibility to yourself that you get back to those simple things in life.

Find a group of friends

You’ve heard the saying, “birds of a feather flock together”. It is important to find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things.  You will find that life is a little bit easier when you are among the people who share your interests and your feelings. There is an understanding between you, as well as an open dialogue. Good conversation and friendship are healthy and important for our minds and souls.

Set goals and just do it!

Take one step at a time. Those single steps will develop into a giant gait over time. Do not overwhelm yourself, but simply do the task at hand.  But set achievable goals and go for them!  Don’t focus on the big picture, concentrate on the small steps.  This is the only way to accomplish anything, and to avoid procrastination and depression.  Even the smallest achievement will give you a sense of accomplishment that will boost your self-confidence.

Something About Habits

No question big decisions are what determine the direction of our life, and, as such, they deserve maximum attention and commitment once taken. However, this evident truth should not bring us into the mistake of caring too little about the small decisions. I refer in particular to those small decisions that we repeat very often in a mostly automatic way, and so form our habits.

If a decision is small but is systematically repeated, the idea that it is small is in fact an illusion. If the result we get is the sum of all our decisions and actions, small but repeated decisions take their part too. For example, if you have the habit to procrastinate, and replace it with the habit to do first the things that you dislike most, this is likely to have a major impact on your life.

Moreover, bad habits often regard "small" weaknesses that we have. We believe we get more results by pressing on our points of strength than by working on our weaknesses, and this is another reason why we are likely to give little importance to some habits. That belief is true in most cases, in my opinion. However, there are also instances (and I am sure you know which ones are for you) where it is an unresolved weakness that keeps us back from growing.

Bad habits for which we do not care control a part of our life. Everybody wants to gain power on the "external" world, but the first and essential power is on ourselves.

To win a bad habit, or to introduce a new positive habit, we need to make an initial investment: this is for the time necessary for the decision/behaviour to become automatic. However, this does not necessarily mean that you need to make a "painful effort" to change your habits. The kind of feeling you associate with the process of working on your habits depends on the significance you give to the experience you are doing and the results you expect to obtain.

If applicable, you can dedicate the next few days just to change one habit, and focus only on that one, all the time you can. This will help you capitalize on the fact that often the same amount of energy if concentrated in a small time brings better results than if spread in a longer time. Another way to is to immagine a dialogue with the habit you want to change. You can keep on discussing in a friendly way till your habit is "convinced" that it is not acting according to your best interest, so the change will appear as a natural necessity.

However you decide to deal with your habits, do not forget to dedicate them the attention they deserve.

Best wishes,
Roberto Zarotti

Some Things Should Change, Like Websites

There are some “Things” that will never change ~ like my love for my children! Even if they do some “Stupid Things,” I am still going to love each of my kids. Sure, I may be dissappointed in them ~ because they don’t really want my advice and probably won’t take it. Maybe, because they don’t visit as often as I would would like? Perhaps, I feel that they could have made some better choices?  Yet, these “Things” will not lesson my love for my kids.

I believe that my children know that I will always love them. I wonder if they derive a certain security from knowing that my love for them is a “Constant,” just as my love for My Lord.

Well, I feel that our websites are a little different. Yes, we do love them too. It is unlikely that we will ever stop loving our websites either. We do have a great deal more control over “Things” in our websites than we do over changes of “Things” in our children.

When we bring a new website into the world, it is our baby. We have all kinds of expectations for it. We send out birth announcements. When it doesn’t stand up by itself in the first three months, we may be a trifle dissappointed. If it isn’t walking by the end of its first year, we might ask if something is wrong.

As none of us were ever born good parents, we are not natural born webmasters either. Parenting skills are learned from our own parents, and by making mistakes. Most of us did not have parents to learn web skills from. We didn’t even have a web. So our learning has been mostly by our mistakes. Fortunately, there are many fine online teachers and programs available to shorten up our learning curves. If we pay attention, we can make “Things” better on our website by making changes.

Change is not easy. Most of us have spent a lifetime building credibility. The last thing we want to do is something that might cause us to loose our good names or compromise our reputations. We might ask, “What if people who are used to “Things” being the same feel threatened when we make changes or offer business opportunities?”

Well, I hope that if we really have proven ourselves over the long~haul to be reputable, like our kids, our return website visitors will learn to trust us because they are secure in their knowledge that we love them too. In fact, like our childen, our website visiters may come to realise that change may be good and return often to see what “Things” have changed.

Some “Things” should change.  Like Websites.

Should We Admit Failure?

Failure is something that none of us ever plans for but it is a part of the human condition. As we go through our lives there are few if any who have never experienced this phenomenon. So as we experience failure, how do we accept it and move on if we are unable to admit it?

I am not suggesting that when we fail that we broadcast our failure to the world at large. I am suggesting though that admitting failure is a necessary tool that we must use if we are ever to be successful again.

An admission of failure is a very personal thing and it should be done with those whom we have a special relationship. Often we can find it difficult to admit to those we love that we have failed. It is especially difficult to admit failure to those who had expected it from the beginning.

To be wildly successful at anything requires us to go into a venture with a narrow definition of what success looks like. if we have not defined success before we attempt something, how do we know when it is time to give up on it and try something else?

Most people define success as having a dollar amount attached to it, but it is always not a financial reward that comes with success, often success is totally unrelated to finance.

Therefore as we work in a business we must be prepared to make a determination as to what success in that business looks like. If our success depends on a financial reward, we need to know what we must do to achieve that reward, otherwise we are at risk of failure. If on the other hand success is determined by the impact that we have on the lives of others, we can not always expect that this success will have financial reward.

So is it possible then to actually fail and succeed at the same time? This is the point that I would like you to ponder. As you go through your life, ask yourself what the impact is that you have had on the lives of others. Then weigh that impact on the result that you have achieved. It may not be a situation where you can claim a financial victory immediately, but it may also be a situation where you are primed to go forward and accomplish something that will reap a great financial reward.

It is with this thought that I would like to close this article. I know you have read the books that used this phrase and I believe that to achieve success we must all be prepared to live by these words. Whether we are successful now or have been in the past, we are all involved in a process of "Failing Forward" and it is in this common condition that we should all remember to be supportive of others when we see their need for support.

She Shared This Success Principle Just As The Clouds Parted

Laura and I just returned from a 10-day getaway to Disney World and I have to say - I feel GREAT!

I love to help people start businesses and live their dreams - so much that sometimes I forget what it's like to play : )

During the plane ride back from the place where "Dreams Come True," our 6-year old, Elina, suddenly turned around and dropped a success principle on me that Walt Disney himself would have been proud of!

Pay attention here because a 6-year old is about to teach us all something about success:

Ready? Elina practically whispered this into my ear:

"You know, sometimes there are foods I don't really like. I just don't like to eat them. But I do. And over time, I start to get used to them. Eventually...it's not so bad."

I sat there and just stared at her in amazement. Elina had just shared with me a success principle that I knew I just had to pass on to you as soon as we got back to New York.

Like all things in life, this principle can be either an 'Achilles Heal' or a panacea for dramatically increasing your personal development and success this year.

It's what you do with it that makes the difference.

You see, many of us are doing things we don't want to be doing; things that don't bring us joy and a sense of accomplishment.

Many of us are doing things we don't want to be doing. Things that don't bring us joy and a sense of accomplishment.

Don't let yourself stay stuck in a job, relationship or situation that you KNOW isn't good for you. That doesn't bring out your passion for life and it certainly won't uplift the people around you.

Sure, over time you may come to see it as "not so bad."

But at what price?

Life goes by too quickly to settle for working a lousy job, or being in an unfulfilling relationship.

Don't settle.

Be honest with yourself too. (I've come to realize that a lot of my discontents stem from WITHIN and not from my partner).

Don't settle for less than what's great within yourself.

When you push yourself to be greater than you were yesterday, a lot of times your work, family and other relationships will 'Magically Transform.'

That brings us to the other side of the coin with this success principle.

All successful people do things that need to be done but no one else wants to do.

Can it be uncomfortable?

ABSOLUTELY! You bet it can!

Carving out a space for your dreams and aspirations from a day that's already filled to the brim can be like eating that vegetable you never liked (mine was spinach).

But I can assure you it gets easier.

Just do the right thing: again and again and again.

Then watch for results.

Over time, you'll see: it's not so bad. It's even pretty good!

You'll begin to believe...I can do this!

Then you'll start succeeding in a BIG way.

Keith Matthew

Seven Ways To Turn Past Failures Into Springboards For Success

Perhaps your professional life isn’t going exactly like you thought it was supposed to go. Maybe you’ve made a series of bad decisions or even one really bad choice that you can’t seem to bounce back from. Maybe you’ve been downsized or terminated. Maybe your best-laid plans have failed and circumstances beyond your control—from market downturns to bad weather to a key player’s incompetence—have put you in the danger zone, or even out in the street.

You may not realize it right now, but you do have options. You could wallow in self-pity, or remain angry at those whom you blame for your current situation. Or you can turn your past disappointments into great accomplishments. How? Just follow the path of the heroes who’ve gone before you. They will show you how to transform past adversity and failures into springboards for success.

Tip No. 1: Take An Objective, Not an Emotional Look, At Where You’ve Come From

Thomas Edison believed there were no such things as mistakes, only eliminated options that brought him one step closer to his goal. There is no such thing as “failure,” he claimed, only lessons to be learned.

Most people find it difficult to see a failure in an analytical, impartial fashion; many of us were raised to believe that if we failed at something, we were failures. Therefore, as adults, we take failure personally, believing our lack of success indicates a lack in our character. Instead, we must look at the situation objectively, as a matter of cause and effect. The fact that we fail in business situations does not mean we are failures, but rather that we didn’t create the right cause to achieve the desired effect.

If you find yourself in a stuck emotional state, go back and analyze the steps you took and see what you might have done differently. Remove the emotional involvement; just look at the raw data. Logically and dispassionately examine the course you chose and determine why it did not yield the result you wanted, and then consider why it was not appropriate for that particular situation. You’ll need to acknowledge what you did that led to the failure, and take responsibility for it. But, like Thomas Edison, you should take what you can learn from it and move on.

Tip No. 2: Focus on the purpose on the other side of the pain.

Happiness does not come from the elimination of pain, but from the realization of your purpose. Keep reminding yourself why you are doing what you’re doing. Even less lofty purposes, such as “I just work here to pay the rent and my car payment,” can be transformed over time if you look at the higher purpose for why you might be there. Perhaps you will make contacts that will help you in the future. Perhaps you are trying to save money to put your kids through college. The key is to look beneath the surface to find the spiritual meaning.

To succeed, you’ll need to look at the higher goals you’ve set and determine their importance, then focus on what is good, important, and meaningful to you, rather than on the mundane aspects or the things you hate about your job. If you develop a strong enough reason or purpose to keep going, and you can focus on that purpose, you will succeed at each of the steps you take toward your goal. Without a sense of purpose, you will lack motivation and consciously or subconsciously doom yourself to failure.

Tip No. 3: You can’t see the whole parade from where you stand.

You never know from where you stand whether what you are experiencing will turn out to be good or bad until enough time has passed. A seemingly hopeless situation may be exactly the disaster you fear, but it may also turn from catastrophe into triumph in ways you are unable to predict.

When people get stuck in “Why me?” mode as a result of a severe business loss, they require a mindshift in order to recover a sense of belief, hope, and inner strength so they can move on. If we can look outside of ourselves at others who have overcome adverse circumstances, we can gain the courage to believe in our ultimate success. In your industry, who do you know or have heard of who failed but managed to get back on top, perhaps in another industry altogether? History is filled with examples.

Soichiro Honda persevered through countless failures and setbacks, over four decades, before his Honda Motor Company became one of the largest automobile companies in the world. His inspiring story demonstrates the power of perseverance in the face of adversity and the necessity of innovation and creativity in periods of failure and loss.

When we make a deliberate decision not to give up, then life seems to present opportunities we hadn’t thought of or couldn’t create ourselves.

Tip no 4: It’s not whether you have won or lost in the past; it’s the person you have to become in order to win in the future.

After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”

Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but try to fall forward every time—in the direction of your goal.

We are all continually creating our own destinies through the choices we make and our desire and determination to see them through. Perhaps you’ve suffered a major business defeat such as downsizing or termination. Realize that you can leave that job on good terms with a handshake and a letter of recommendation, or with the threat of a lawsuit against those who fired you. How you handle the crisis has a dramatic impact on how you will succeed from that point forward.

For example, early in his football coaching career, Lou Holtz was fired from his job at the University of Arkansas for no apparent reason. He could have sued, sulked or slandered. But instead, he shook hands and moved on, keeping the good friends he had there. From there, he went to the University of Minnesota. When his dream job at the University of Notre Dame job came open, Holtz’ applied. Notre Dame started calling Holtz’ past employers - including the University of Arkansas. Arkansas gave him a raving recommendation and Notre Dame hired him. Holtz finally got his dream job where he won several national championships. Had Holtz chosen to react negatively after being fired at Arkansas, he would have virtually guaranteed a bad performance review, which could have cost him his dream job at Notre Dame. How we react to bad things today has a huge impact on what happens to us tomorrow.

Like Lou Holtz, you can choose to fall in the direction of your next goal, deciding to treat the fall as a sort of awkward but valuable step along the path of your life and career. If, instead of dwelling on the circumstances of the past, you can manage to move on in a forward direction, your fall will send you in the direction of your goals.

Tip No. 6: “Retreat” does not equal “defeat.”

A retreat can be a valuable opportunity to regroup and rethink strategies and goals. For example, one of the worst business mistakes you can make is to continue to pour money into a failing business; in this situation, knowing when to call it quits and creatively develop a better plan is essential.

Don’t let pride keep you stuck in a wrong decision. Managers and investors need to be willing to change a course of action that isn’t working, no matter how much faith, time, and money may have been put into it so far. You need to be willing to abandon a path that is not taking you where you want to go and start over again.

Captain Oliver Hazard Perry is famous for captaining the ship that bore the flag saying “Don’t give up the ship” during the War of 1812. The little known fact is that he did abandon that ship! When 80% of his men were dead and his ship was sinking, he paddled a little john-boat over to another ship, took control of it, and soundly defeated the British in the Battle of Lake Erie.

Tip No. 7: Realize that pain and heartache are only labor pains before your birth.

Many people who lost their jobs and businesses as the economy took a downturn have searched for years and have yet to find a job in their industry. This loss may have a profound effect on their sense of self. Like Moses after he was stripped of his wealth and power and was exiled into the desert by Pharoah, they may feel as if all is lost, as they find themselves doing work they never would have envisioned themselves doing when they were in college. But Moses’ many years of exile in the desert was exactly what he needed in order to become the kind of man who would eventually free the Hebrews from slavery.

In any painful, frightening situation, you need to realize that there is hope on the other side of the tragedy, even if you can’t see it yet. When you quit, you guarantee that you will not be around to experience that which makes your suffering count for something. Turn your pain into a purpose.

If you persevere, you will gain wisdom and perspective and finally realize why you went through everything: namely, to become a new person, the person you needed to become in order to achieve the success you were seeking.

Claim Your Future Success

Many heroes of the past have blazed a trail for us to follow if we really want to overcome tragedies and failures. Remember, just because you may have failed does not mean you are a “failure.” Failure is an attitude, not a place. Get up and keep crawling, sliding, and falling forward in the direction of your dreams. If you follow the hero’s path, eventually you will get there.

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Set Yourself Up For Success . . . Uploading in a Download World

Do you remember back in the early days of the internet where various “Electronic Bulletin Boards” required you to upload so many files in proportion to the number of downloads you grabbed? File contributions were not only necessary, but were required.  In fact, if you didn’t adhere to this policy, you may have been barred from downloading altogether. Everyone was so excited about connecting with other computers and these early Bulletin Boards with their 300 and 1200 baud modems, a far cry from today’s technology just 15-20 years later.

Unlike these Bulletin Boards, our society seems to foster an attitude of taking rather than giving. Most people are looking out for what will give them the most immediate gratification and reward, and aren’t generally interested in the welfare of others. Instead of the give and take philosophy of the early internet days, it’s more of a take-take-take mentality today. A “what’s in it for me” attitude dominates.

Giving is much more than simply a biblical concept. There is a feeling of great satisfaction and fulfillment earned each and every time we do something for or financially contribute to someone else or a cause greater than ourselves. There is no escaping the fact that we are designed that way.  Such action is virtually guaranteed for our betterment. Giving, when done in the right spirit, is actually an investment in ourselves, in our future, that will cause us to reap far more than that which we sow. It represents a promise from almighty God Himself.. It doesn’t get any bigger than that!

Not only is there the promise of a greater reward for our generosity, but there is the priceless reward of utter satisfaction, joy and fulfillment that fills our heart as a result of giving. Doing a good deed for someone else, especially when done in anonymity, where there is no opportunity for material reward, will make you feel good about yourself and your place in the world. This intangible reward is far greater than any fleeting monetary payment. This mindset of joyful giving is essential for our success.

What does success mean to you? Is it the end result or goal that you aspire to attain? Is success a new address in a better part of town, membership in an elite club or surpassing the Jones'? Is success tangible or intangible? Is your previous definition of success enough or does it leave you wanting more? Whatever success means to you, it is probably much more about the journey than any particular achievement. Try adding giving to you success formula. You’ll be astonished where it will take you.

Knowing exactly what it is that you want is critical. Having a detailed plan for its achievement is absolutely necessary. Taking consistent and persistent action, while constantly monitoring your progress and altering your strategy accordingly, will surely help you in your journey. Giving, while often not grabbing the spotlight, will definitely contribute to the satisfaction that you seek and make a difference in the life of someone else. Giving is a strong component of success. You will surely get back more than you ever gave away.

Self-improvement at Success University

Almost everyone is striving to improve some facet of our lives whether it is our image, spirituality, financial status, health or just our self-respect.  Billions of dollars each year are spent on weight control, stress management, health and wellness products, self-improvement resources, you name it.  Over $8.5 billion a year and growing to be more explicit.

We constantly strive for more, or better.  It is our desire to succeed that drives us.
There are Books, CD's, AudioCassettes, Infomercials, Seminars, even personal coaches.  And how 'bout the hundreds and hundreds of motivational speakers.  All, to help us achieve our goal to succeed.  Whether we are striving to lose weight, get more exercise, improve our relationships or business skills, reduce stress or gain financial independence, there is some one or some thing out there to help us.

Another venue for self-improvement is the Internet.  Many web sites are available to offer articles and self help guides.   But, I would like to bring your attention to Success University.  At SU, they have assembled over 50 of the most amazing minds on the planet who collectively have helped millions of people achieve astounding levels of success.  Success University now brings you the most advanced online courses on SUCCESS ever assembled.  You will soon discover the secret attitudes, techniques, methods and strategies that, when you learn, will skyrocket your success in virtually every area of your life.

Success University is also growing in momentum.  Their "earn while you learn" program is unheard of in today's self-improvement market.  Offering courses in Personal Development, Leadership, Motivation and Financial disciplines just to name a few.  Success University also offers a 14-day free trial program, although they do request a $2 donation to "Feed the Children."

All in all, I believe that Success University is the best value.  A free trial period, content, expert advice, and you can even make money while enrolled. 

Wishing you well and much success,

Ray Skeen
The HomeBizVenture

Self-Growth: Building Character And Integrity

It's been said that character is defined by what you do when you think no one is watching. What an illuminating concept that is.

Most of us have a public face and a private face. There are parts of ourselves we don't want the world to see. Typically, we tend to hide the aspects that would not be viewed favorably by society. Greed, lust, jealousy, pettiness, fear and so on. We also tend to hide our weaknesses. No one needs to know that we can wolf down a gallon of ice cream in an hour, do they? ;-)

I think most people are "good" at their core; decent, loving, compassionate and kind. However, even those we perceive to be good people are capable of unspeakable acts. How many times have you heard a convicted murderer's family member or friend say, "I just can't believe he would be capable of something like that. It's so unlike him." The killer projected one identity to the world, while secretly he was someone else entirely.

Okay, most of us are not murderers. Yet, even those of us who would be considered "good people" often think nothing of stealing, cheating on our spouses, or worse. What does that say about our character? Is it wrong only if we get caught?

How many times have you done something that you probably wouldn't have done if others had been there to see it? Would you feel embarrassed if these things were brought to public awareness? Did you act on your impulses only because you felt sure no one would ever find out?

I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "sin" lately. What is sin exactly? In the Christian religion, sin refers to that which displeases (or dishonors) God. The Ten Commandments warn us against adultery, theft, murder and more. Supposedly if you follow that list, you will remain in God's good graces.

In some earth religions, there is only one commandment: Harm None; which basically covers all angles in two words. Do nothing that would cause harm to yourself or another. Seems simple enough.

Yet, in both of these examples there are gray areas, aren't there? Sometimes it's hard to tell what's right or wrong. If we find money on the street and pick it up, is that stealing? Does it make a difference if it was $5.00 or $500.00? If we lie to protect someone's feelings, is that wrong? If we take some paper clips home from the office, is that stealing? Does it "harm" the company, really? If we flirt with someone other than our spouse, or fantasize about them, is that cheating? Or is cheating only the physical act of sexual intercourse?

In situations like these, how do we know the right course of action? How do we balance integrity with our impulses and desires? I think it can help to examine your motives and the possible consequences. What is your intent in this situation? What do you hope to gain from it? Could your actions harm another, or yourself? If your actions became public knowledge, would you be okay with that?

Maybe some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, thinking, "What's the big deal? So what if I take a few things from work, or cheat on my wife? What they don't know won't hurt them." That may be true, but doesn't it hurt you in the long run? Don't those actions detract from the kind of person you are? Don't they dim your inner light? If it's true that we are all connected, then isn't it also true that harming another means harming ourselves? By disrespecting others, we disrespect ourselves and God.

Personally, I don't believe that God is angry and judgmental, sitting up in the clouds waiting to cast us into the pits of Hell for our transgressions. I do believe there will be a final "review" of our lives, and we will have to answer for the things we've done. But I think we will be our own judges. In the deepest part of ourselves, we know right from wrong.

We're not perfect, and no one is expecting us to be. We all make mistakes and do things we are later ashamed of. We are human, after all. But there is a big difference between making a mistake, and purposely doing something we know is wrong. We may try to fool ourselves at times and justify our actions. Maybe your husband doesn't pay attention to you, so you try to convince yourself that it's okay to have an affair with a man who does. Or your employer gives you a crappy raise, so you decide to make up for it in other ways, like stealing supplies or fudging your time sheet. They asked for it, right? You certainly have the right to do these things, and probably no one will stop you. Our greatest gift in life is Free Will. Unfortunately, it is also often our greatest curse. There are always consequences to our actions, whether they come now or later.

In the end, it's all a matter of personal accountability. Do we want to be a person of character, or not? It doesn't matter if we get caught or not. What matters is that we are defined by our actions. If I take something that doesn't belong to me, I am a thief. If I cheat on my spouse, I am an adultress. If I don't want to get caught, I probably shouldn't do these things in the first place. The truth has a way of making itself known.

SELF IMPROVEMENT AND SUCCESS

Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – its my favorite movie, actually. Its one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward.  His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become the a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…
*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t  expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

If you are interested in learning more, probably the best self improvement information resource online today can be found at http://www.selfimprovement.thegreat.info.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Self Improvement - What the Samurai Can Teach Us About It

A Seventeenth Century Samurai maxim states:
 
"A man who has attained mastery of an art reveals it in his every action"

This saying is one of my personal favorites. There is so much depth to its meaning. Allow me to discuss it a little and explain how it will be able to benefit you.

First, a question: What is the single greatest thing that you can do with mastery and excellence? Don't say: "nothing." Everybody is good at something. Just think for a moment.

There will be one thing that you can do perfectly time and time again. It is the thing that is so ridiculously easy for you to do that you can do it with your eyes closed, almost standing on your head - so to speak. It may be a simple thing or it may be something quite complex, but whatever it is you make it look easy.

In fact, you are so good at it you make other people think that they can do it easily too - until they try. It might be a sport like tennis or something as mundane as making scones or cupcakes.

It's amazing how a champion tennis player can make the game look so simple. Or how a master cook can seemingly slap ingredients together and come up with an absolute masterpiece of culinary delight.

So what is it? What are you a master at? Keep that thing in mind while I diverge back to the samurai for a moment - a little bit of history.

The samurai lived by the sword and died by it. They were so adept at reading body movement that they were able to draw their swords and use them with deadly effect against opponents in the mere blink of an eye. Their observations and reflexes were finely honed, principally because their very existence depended on it. But did you know that they were able to transcend their ability with the sword into other arts? Many of them were also master poets. Others were highly skilled calligraphers. Others became very skilled in the art of the tea ceremony. Some became master carpenters.

Have you noticed how these "ancillary" skills are so diametrically opposed to their military expertise with the sword? So how and why did they engage in these things? Could it be that they were "balancing" their lives? Were they following the concept of "yin and yang?"

If you are not sure what yin and yang is I will outline it briefly for you. Basically, it a Japanese recognition of the duality of all things in nature. For instance, night and day, female and male, black and white and so on. Further, there is some night within day and some day within night and so on.

Time for another question. Are you so set in your ways that you refuse to develop other skills? Can you not broaden your horizons? Might you be able to "balance" your life a little more?

Think back to that one thing that you are able to do very well. Why not take that mindset and transfer it to something else? You can create a persona that shows other people that you are a special person. Others have done it. You even know them. Some of them might even be your close friends. They are the people who seem to be good at everything they turn their minds to. I'll bet you are thinking of somebody like that right now.

Now you know how they do it. They are using the samurai maxim.

And just to balance the genders (yin and yang):
 
"A woman who has attained mastery of an art reveals it in her every action"

Develop yourself. Improve your abilities. You can do it. All it takes is discipline and a willingness to expand your mind. The samurai did it. So can you.

Self Employed Is A State Of Mind

Being self employed is typically thought of as working in your own business, as opposed to working for someone else's business. However, you can start working for yourself today, even if you are working in someone else's business. It all a matter of perspective.

You are an employee when you are working for someone else, but you don't have to think of yourself in that way. Think of yourself as self employed. Even if you're flipping burgers, you're in the business of selling your labor, right? And business people think differently than employees.

The word "employee" often carries connotations of slavery, as in the expression "wage slave." It is associated with a loss of control, a sense that the "boss" is the one calling the shots. What an awful thought! There is a better way.

Be In Business Starting Today

My employers have never been more than customers to me. If I dodn't like the terms or price, I negotiate or go elsewhere. There are opportunities everywhere, after all. This attitude has meant I've never felt trapped in a job I didn't like. I look at jobs as business opportunities, and choose the best one at any given time. If my own business is a better one, as it is now, then I do that.

Ther is nothing sadder than bitter workers who feel cheated and dependent on an employer. I have had terrible employers, but they never made me bitter. In any business you sometimes work for customers you don't like, if the pay is worth it.

Many years ago I worked at a casino. As a reservation casino they could get away with not paying minimum wage. With the tips, we made good money, in fact more than any of the five other casinos in the state. Most of the workers were bitter, though, because the employer wasn't doing what they were "supposed to do."

They had their employee mentality, and so felt cheated. As a businessman, I could look at it objectively and see they were paying more than other potential buyers of my labor. They certainly were a "problem customer" in many respects, but I chose to do business with them, so I couldn't feel bitter about it.
 
How To Be Self Employed

It helps to have money in the bank. "Wage slavery" is only true to the extent that you've put yourself into that position. It takes only a few weeks to find another customer for your labor. Anytime you feel you can't quit your job tomorrow, you're probably not arranging your financial affairs properly. Any smart businessman plans for ups and downs.

Here is what you need to do to support your new perspective: put a little money aside, keep out of bad debt (only debt that produces income or profits is good debt) and keep your fixed expenditures low. Take responsibility today for your choices. You are in business, selling labor, skills and knowledge.

You are opening your mind to the possibilities of better jobs and business activities. These are nice advantages, but not the best reason to adopt this attitude. You see, even if you stay at your job for thirty years, you will feel free, and not dependent. This is YOUR business decision, and the freedom that comes with this acceptance of responsibilty is the best reason to take this perspective. Starting today, you are self employed.

Seize the Opportunity and Master Your Life

Your life is essentially a movie. You’ve got lead characters, a supporting cast, dramatic events, and quite a few twists in the plot.

It’s obvious you are the main character in your life movie. Just as important though, is you’re the director. The director can either make the movie - or break it. Why? Because a director’s job is to edit, review, and revise.

Sadly, many people have hired everyone else but themselves for the role. These people often end up a “victim of life.” However, it’s never too late to fire that guy and hire yourself!

As the director, you get the exciting opportunity to keep the things in your life you love, and change the things you’re not so happy about. You get to add a little comedy, action, romance, adventure – whatever it takes to make a life-movie you’re proud of.

Let’s Talk Salary

Congratulations! You have just offered yourself the position of directing your life – and accepted it!

It’s no wonder big-time, Hollywood directors make anywhere between $3,000,000 and $250,000,000 per movie! Yes, you read right - 3 to 250 million dollars. All that for a two hour movie.

Now let’s apply that to you. As the director of your life (because it’s a non-stop job), you will have directed 4380 2-hour movies. Just for fun, let’s say you get paid a mere 2 million per movie. Your annual income would be $8,760,000,000,000! 

OK, now let’s be serious. If you’re making a quality movie - one that you’re proud of and audiences will love - don’t you deserve to be paid for it? After all, if every movie of your life is filled with great things, not only do you improve your life, but your family’s and those around you. You are truly making the world a better place.

Who’s Going to Pay Me?

The realist in you is screaming this question at the top of its lungs. The answer: YOU. How? By investing in yourself. In your life movie, if it’s your financial situation you’re not satisfied with, start by finding another stream of income - preferably one that generates income 24 hours a day. If it’s your health, make a change in your diet or exercise routine. Or maybe you don’t feel there’s enough time for you in your day. As the director, you get the authority to add some “you-time” in your schedule.

The common thread here is to try something new. You’re going to keep getting what you’ve always gotten if you keep doing what you’ve always done. You’re in charge!

And... Action!

Seeds of Financial Success, Harnessing the Power of the Mind

What would you do with your life if you had 20 million dollars in the bank? Would you be as you are now, the same you, or would you be different?  Certainly your life would change because you would be able to make new choices. 

Did you know that you can use the power of your mind to achieve your desires and goals?  To do so, you must change your mindset.  As attributed to Lisa Diane, a well-know inspirational leader, to be wealthy, you must be wealthy (in you mind), think wealthy (your thoughts form your perceptions which form your reality), speak wealthy (speak only positive thoughts), and act wealthy.

Napoleon Hill spent 20 years interviewing 500 of the wealthiest people to find out what it takes to become wealthy.  He interviewed notables including Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, John D. Rockefeller, Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell and many others.  In his book “Think and Grow Rich,” Hill explained the common thread among the wealthy in being able to use the power of the mind to transfer thoughts into their physical reality. 

You too, can use the power of your own mind to achieve your goals and desires.  Apply the following rules to begin creating your own manifesting mindset:

1) Go, see, do.  Be definitive in your desires.  Know explicitly what you want.  Manifest the desire clearly in your mind.

2) Be patient.  Believe in your desires and expect them to happen.  Trust that they will happen.  But be patient.

3) Feel like you have your goals and desires now.  Don’t just visualize your desire, feel it.

4) Clear your mind.  Get rid of junky and negative thoughts and focus in a positive way on your goals and desires.

5) Believe that you will get what you want.  Beliefs create perceptions which create reality.

6) Use affirmations daily.  An “affirmation” is “a solemn and formal declaration attesting to the truth of some matter.”

7) Stay focuses on your desires.  The more you visualize, feel, believe and affirm your desires (in a positive way), the more real they become.

8) Be aware of your dreams.  They are reflective (although distorted) of your thoughts and emotions.

9) Don’t doubt. Instead be sure that you will receive your desires.  Don’t try to control when or how; instead, just receive your desires when they come to you.

10) Clearly set your intentions.  An “intention” is “an anticipated outcome that guides your planned actions.”  A realized goal or desire is the result of your intentions.

11) Be grateful for what you have, even before you have it.  Expect and believe that you have your desire already, and be grateful for it.

12) Give to others, and in return you shall receive.

You produce your own reality.

Jim McCabe

Re-programme the multi billion gigabyte PC between your ears and change your life

You can re-programme yourself to succeed.

You have been programmed from birth to become who and what you are today!

In the main you have allowed this to happen, either consciously or unconsciously.

If you are not completely satisfied with who and what you have become ...then change, re-programme yourself!

Your programming commenced at the moment of conception when your DNA was fused to your being. Your personal and unique DNA is the life behavioural platform with which you were launched into the world.

Compare this if you will to buying a brand new computer. Two folks may buy the same basic computer but from different resellers and so the basic configurations and software programmes pre-installed will be different even though these two computers have identical basic features.


These two computers then begin to be attacked by hackers, spammers, viruses and a whole host of other negative intrusions.


Now one of these folks had the presence of mind to install preventative software which stopped the vast majority of these attempted negative intrusions form being installed on their hard drive.


The other took no preventative action whatsoever and their PC became clogged up with a minefield of explosive devices just waiting to destroy their hard drive or at impair its' functionality dramatically.


A silly question really, with an obvious answer but which PC owner will get the best out of their computer?


So, you have this multi billion gigabyte PC between your ears. How well have you been programmimg it. What type of software programmes have you allowed to be installed?

Is yours overloaded with 'Games' sofware?

Is yours loaded with 'No fun and laughter' software?

Is yours loaded with 'Poor me' software?

Is yours loaded with 'Some day I'll' software?

Is your loaded with 'If only' software?

Is yours loaded with 'If it were not for them' software?

Has yours been seriously infected with a myriad of viruses?

Or are you blissfully unaware, as are most folks, of the huge damage done to your personal hard drive which is severely limiting your personal development?

If you live in the developed world then the odds are that if you are dissatisfied with your station in life it is because you have allowed the personal PC between your ears to be swamped with negative 'stuff'.

The good news is that you can do something about it!!!!! If that is you have the wish, the will and the self discipline to re-programme that personal PC of yours.

May I suggest that you take a look at www.e-trainme.com and complete the FREE Inner Mind Self Awareness Questionnaire. You will receive an instant report based on your individual answers. This report will extend to over 10,000 words and is completely FREE of any cost or obligation whatsoever.

The few minutes you set aside to complete this questionnaire may well be a life changing moment for you.

You have between your ears a personal PC with a multi-million gigabyte capacity just waiting to be re-programmed so you may live the life you seek.

Set about deleting the dysfunctional files which have slipped in over the years and start life anew.

Re-programme yourself for future happiness and enjoy whatever is for you, success.

You can re-programme yourself to succeed.

You have been programmed from birth to become who and what you are today!

In the main you have allowed this to happen, either consciously or unconsciously.

If you are not completely satisfied with who and what you have become ...then change, re-programme yourself!

Your programming commenced at the moment of conception when your DNA was fused to your being. Your personal and unique DNA is the life behavioural platform with which you were launched into the world.

Compare this if you will to buying a brand new computer. Two folks may buy the same basic computer but from different resellers and so the basic configurations and software programmes pre-installed will be different even though these two computers have identical basic features.


These two computers then begin to be attacked by hackers, spammers, viruses and a whole host of other negative intrusions.


Now one of these folks had the presence of mind to install preventative software which stopped the vast majority of these attempted negative intrusions form being installed on their hard drive.


The other took no preventative action whatsoever and their PC became clogged up with a minefield of explosive devices just waiting to destroy their hard drive or at impair its' functionality dramatically.


A silly question really, with an obvious answer but which PC owner will get the best out of their computer?


So, you have this multi billion gigabyte PC between your ears. How well have you been programming it? What type of software programmes have you allowed to be installed?

Is yours overloaded with 'Games' software?

Is yours loaded with 'No fun and laughter' software?

Is yours loaded with 'Poor me' software?

Is yours loaded with 'Some day I'll' software?

Is yours loaded with 'If only' software?

Is yours loaded with 'If it were not for them' software?

Has yours been seriously infected with a myriad of viruses?

Or are you blissfully unaware, as are most folks, of the huge damage done to your personal hard drive which is severely limiting your personal development?

If you live in the developed world then the odds are that if you are dissatisfied with your station in life it is because you have allowed the personal PC between your ears to be swamped with negative 'stuff'.

The good news is that you can do something about it!!!!!

If that is you have the wish, the will and the self discipline to re-programme that personal PC of yours.

Rejection: Why Devastation and Paralysis Don’t Have to Follow

We’ve all been there...we asked someone for something...a date, a job, a raise, a loan, help in doing something, forgiveness, love, a recommendation, and so on, and we were rejected. Or we started up a business…like a restaurant…but then not enough clients came…and so we felt rejected. Oh the devastation inside! The feeling of utter failure…and yes, rejection.

Rejection gives rise to many feelings that make us doubt our own self-worth, that cause us to put great big question marks around our value as men, women, human beings. The fact that we have been rejected makes many other accomplishments we may have under our belt pale in comparison. We arbitrarily give the rejection tremendous power over our own judgement of ourselves.

Inner Security

Inherent in this lies not only our sense of self esteem, self acceptance, and self love, but more importantly, our sense of self confidence, or to put it in slightly awkward, but more exact terms, our sense of inner security about ourselves.

In other words, if we have a strong sense of inner security, and if we believe – with all our being – in the essence of our value as a human being, as a man, or a woman, then rejection will merely appear to be a mild ripple in a pond on a warm summer day. If, however, our sense of inner security depends on validation from sources external to ourselves, then rejection may appear to be as overwhelming as a category 5 hurricane, and in its devastating and annihilating power, sweep us off our feet, robbing us of initiative and pro-activity.

Success After Rejection and Failure

This is the insidious power of rejection to paralyze us. We fear what we call failure, and failure is implicit in rejection for those who identify their self-worth and inner security with external approbation and acceptance. And yet, remember what you may have read on numerous occasions: how often was Abraham Lincoln rejected by the electorate, for Congress, for the Senate, and ultimately for the Presidency, before he was finally elected? Did this stop him from trying again? How often did Edison’s attempts at inventing a usable light bulb end in failure? Did this stop him from trying again? Beethoven was considered hopeless at composing by his music teacher…evidently this did not stop him from doing precisely that. The New York Times pronounced the idea of television as something the average family would never want in their homes, and Warner Brothers said talking movies would never be a success, and this clearly did not stop all those who were promoting these ideas.

Preventive Measures

We must be aware of the power of rejection, and therefore take preventive measures in order that when we meet up with it, it does not take the rhythm out of our lives. Clearly, no one is entirely impervious to rejection, and no one can totally ignore it. Indeed, on occasion rejection may indicate that steps must be taken in order to improve on something that is not giving the desired results. An author, for example, faced with numerous rejections from publishers, may consider some of their suggestions for improving the manuscript. An actor who is rejected after each audition, may consider taking some additional acting classes. A politician who is rejected in each election, may consider carefully examining the position he or she takes on specific issues.

However, and this is very important, even if the rejection causes a person to try to improve something, the fact of the matter is, that the worth and value of that person are no different before and after upgrading their chosen activity. And it is precisely this which people with a negligible sense of inner security do not see. Therefore it behooves every individual to work on building up and expanding this sense of inner security.

Life in the Fast Lane to Inner Growth

This means self-awareness has to become the name of the daily game. In particular, each and every day self talk must be observed. What are you telling yourself? How are you reacting in given situations? What are your feelings about the events that occur? Once you get a handle on what goes on inside of you at least for a portion of the time (because to become conscious of all of this all of the time, takes a while, and a bit of discipline), then you can get a feel for where your inner security needs some tweaking.

Recognition of Patterns Leads to Freedom

Try to see a pattern in your self talk, your reactions, and feelings. Remember to also take stock of your physical reactions at each of these steps…is your breathing suddenly more shallow…or is your solar plexus twisting in pain…or perhaps there is suddenly a lump in your throat. Become conscious not only of the pattern of your thoughts, self talk, reactions, and feelings, but also of the pattern of your body’s reactions.

Most likely the pattern will be dancing around the issue of how you tend to make mistakes, or how you are supposed to be perfect, or how dumb you are, or how you can never get it right, or how people just don’t seem to like you, or another variation of this same theme. Seeing the pattern will help you counteract it, because on those occasions where you actually catch yourself “in the pattern”, once you have established what it is, you will be able to bring consciousness or awareness, rather than blindness, into the reaction. So you will be able to turn the thought, or the reaction, or the feeling into something more positive, more self-affirming, something that, in other words, works affirmatively on your sense of inner security. Once you have begun this process, observe how you begin to feel differently when you get a new rejection. This is another step towards the inner freedom so often mentioned in these articles. Go for it!

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